Singles, singles and more Muslim singles... There are many them, in all shapes, dimensions, races and with various qualifications. Yet, there doesn't seem to be to be one singleton sparking enough interest to express 'let's take this further and go for a coffee? ' Therefore what's going wrong at these marriage events? How do single Muslims get married these days?
The hush voices and the deafening awkwardness is inevitable as the singles wait around for the event to start. single Muslims marriage events
I wact a film tiresomely introduce themselves repeatedly. I see some lonely hearts losing interest, playing on their phone or leaping onto their social media lives. I even witness many bromances and womances blossoming right before my sight... huh?
Eventually when the intros are over, alleviation... Phew! Then the disappointment hits. Why? Because there's no-one you want approach! You scroll down the set of names and still no-one captures your interests or is remotely like the person you want to marry! You get to the end of the checklist and start again hoping you overlooked someone, you realise you haven't and the stifled despair is clear to see... argh!
Half the folks you've met you don't even remember, many people turned up late and missed the intros completely! Clearly creating a good first impression isn't important for all those trying to meet your true love!
After much consideration and deliberation the singles send some demands or accept 'requests to meet' for a one-to-one conversation.
These one-to-one discussions can make you speechless at the lack of 'conversation'! At the other finish of the spectrum, extraordinarily some singles are willing to drop their lives, marry and move in with you tomorrow! It makes you wonder, what on earth just happened?!
Lonely hearts walk away from these one-to-ones feeling completely underwhelmed. The brothers talk at the sisters, hoping something they said would hook up with them. Even though the sisters' preferred approach is a aggressive and uncensored interrogation of the brothers' past associations and haraam (prohibited) activities... Awkward much!
Despite putting yourself through all of that and with little luck in meeting someone suitable, how do lonely hearts get married today... or is it that they just don't?!
Some have been trying to get married for a long time. They attend marriage events and use online marriage websites yet they're still struggling to find 'the one'. There is a saying they're okay with it however feeling of defeat is palpable.
The friends either don't really know what they want or they think the sisters are too fussy. Whereas the sisters think the brothers are immature, untrustworthy and irresponsible... ouch!
Singles with no 'requests to meet' make a quick exit hoping no person notices. While some cling on to hope that someone will speak to them at some point.
I watch the event organisers excited to see the singles find marriage, seek out there singles and personally set up a 'request to meet' along with other singles. On the other hand it takes some coaxing, cajoling and an enormous dollop of luck to achieve this.
Unfortunately sometimes there are also after-effects of these occasions... There are some siblings who can't take no for an answer and think following a solitary Muslimah (Muslim woman) to the bus stop or tracking her down on social media is a good move... Stalker much!!
It results in me with the question: how many brothers and siblings exchange numbers (not including bromances or womances) and actually take the next thing to meet again?
So how does it leave these singles... Do Muslim public know how to 'date' halal? Usually are they at these occasions because they wish to be there? Or is it because their siblings, friends and cousins are getting married and they feel left right behind!
These marriage events are a great resource for meeting other singles. They've successfully paired thousands of couples. But are singles taking full benefit of them?
Usually are the singles buying of curiosity or even an suspicion of one? Is that inquiring for too much as a first meeting? Thus does that then imply love at first view is out of the question?
